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juggs's avatar

where i start to roll my eyes is when design parent-ism (the performative kind that gets displayed on social media) extends to the child’s room once they are beyond infant age. i know your four year old does not feel an affinity for that tasteful earth-tone triangle pennant or whatever please be for real! i do think it’s important for kids to have some sense of ownership & belonging over their own space from pretty early on even though that almost always clashes with our own aesthetic desires if we’re honest. the flip side of that is that the adult members of the family should also have the freedom to express _their_ aesthetics in the parts of the home they are responsible for. in my house this includes the shared spaces, but as they get older we do involve them in decorating decisions the same way we are slowly increasing their responsibility for shared chores. it is actually really fun to pick out art with your kids, or let them arrange a tchotchke shelf with items they feel are worthy of display! their gd ninja turtle figures get put the fuck away in their room, though

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Cassi's avatar

I don’t let my 4 year old eat messy snacks on our gorgeous Kazak living room rug but when my 10 month old spits up on it I just wipe it away and don’t worry about it because good quality rugs are made to last and wool is easy to clean. Also, it’s MY living room and having some cheap trash from Ruggable would probably make me resent my children.

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